The Journey of Change – University of Nebraska

Being a bridge-builder

I wouldn’t say we’ve caught up entirely, but we have come a long way. I’ve definitely made sure to carry the things I’ve learned with me on this coaching journey.

Even during those tough early days as a player, one of the things that isn’t talked about enough is the generosity of the coaches. They obviously knew we didn’t have access to many of the things we needed. So there was a lot of love and care that came out of their own pockets.

They did a lot for us that ranged from feeding us at tournaments to making holidays feel special. I still remember the Illinois coach putting Easter baskets together for us. That kind of support really mattered.

So, even though Title IX has come a long way, I still try to carry on the same love and appreciation as a coach for my players. I will stand on a soap box and fight for my team. I think I’ve done that my whole career.

I’m not an enemy-maker by any stretch of the imagination. I’m a bridge-builder. I’m always going to try and make connections with people. At the same time, I’m going to be very clear about what our program needs to be successful.

That line of thinking hasn’t changed regardless of the positions I’ve held.

I’m a firm believer that if you’re clear about things and you work hard — if you put the right amount of care into your program — the people around you will step up and give that care right back. 

You don’t get anything in this world if you don’t ask for it.